We should try to cultivate children's interest in others, because this is basically the right thing to do, and also because children can empathize and take responsibility for others, they are more likely to be happy and more successful. They will have a better relationship for the rest of their lives, and a strong relationship is a key part of happiness. In today’s workplace, success often depends on effective collaboration with others, and empathy and social awareness children are also better collaborators.
Here are some guidelines for raising attentive, respectful, and ethical children, and tips for putting them into practice. These clues are supported by many studies and the work that our various organizations have done over the decades with families across America.
Work to develop caring, loving relationships with your kids.
Children learn to care and respect when treated in this way. When our children feel loved, they become attached to us too. Thanks to this connection, they embrace our values and learn more.
There are many types of love for our children, such as satisfying their physical and emotional needs, providing a safe and secure home environment, showing affection, respecting their individual personalities, taking a serious interest in their lives, talking about important things, and acknowledging their efforts and results.
- Regular joint time. Plan regular and emotionally personal time with your children. Some parents and guardians do this by reading at bedtime or in other joint activities. Some of them put forward time with their children in their weekly schedules instead of leaving it by chance. For example, you can spend one Saturday afternoon a month with each of your children doing something that both of you enjoy.
- Meaningful conversation. Whenever you have time with your child, ask questions alternately to open your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Ask questions like:
- “How was your day? Did you have a hard time?”
- “What are the things you did that you feel good about?”
- “What was the nice thing someone did for you today? What did you do?”
- “What was something you learned today—in school or outside of school?”
Be a strong role model and mentor. 😊
Children learn ethical values and behaviors by following our actions and the actions of other adults they respect. As we speak, the children will listen to our teaching.
Be careful when practicing honesty, fairness, self-care, and modeling, such as peaceful conflict resolution and effective management of anger and other difficult emotions.That is why it is really important for us to shape humility, self-awareness and sincerity towards people, to recognize our mistakes and mistakes and to work on them. It is also important that we recognize what may interfere with our care. For example, does our child press our buttons in a way that makes it sometimes difficult to take care of him? And remember, children will only want to be like us if they trust them. Adults can think about whether our children respect us, and if we think not, they can think about why and how we can fix the relationship.
- Service. Participate regularly in services of general interest or model other ways to contribute to the community. Even better than considering it with your child.
- Sincerity and humility. Talk to your child when you make a mistake that affects him or her, why you think you made it, apologize for the mistake, and explain how you want to avoid the mistake next time.
- Check in with others. Think and consult with people you trust when you find it difficult to care for them or model important ethical qualities, such as fairness.
- Take care of yourself. Whether it's time with a friend, a walk, a prayer or a meditation, try to find time to relieve stress, because it's important to you and because it allows you to be more attentive and understanding with others.
Ensure that caring for others is a priority and set high ethical expectations.
It is very important for children to hear from their parents and guardians that caring for others is a priority and as important as their own happiness. While most parents and carers say that taking care of their children is a priority, children often don't hear this message.
An important part of the care priority is to keep children in line with high ethical expectations, in honor of their commitment, to do the right thing, even if it is difficult, to adhere to and demand respect for important principles of justice and fairness. , even if he is sorry for them and even if their peers or others do not behave like that.
- A clear message. Think about the daily messages you send to children about the importance of care. For example, instead of telling children, "The most important thing is to be happy", you can say, "The most important thing is to be kind and happy."
- When talking to other key adults in your child's life, prioritize your care. For example, ask teachers and trainers if your children are good members of the community, and also ask about their academic abilities, grades, or results.